Jan 02 2009
What was I thinking….
So 2 years ago I met and fell in love with my boyfriend. At the time, he told me that he was seperated and getting a divorce. That was fine, he was living with his father so I thought and we would make it work. The big issue was that we lived in two seperate towns in neighboring states. We only lived like 30-45 miles away from one another but it was enough distance so he apparently could live a double life. So the story goes, we dated for another 3-4 months and we decided he would move in with me. I had met his daughter, and she had met my children. Well I am at work one night and get a strange phone call from some woman claiming to be his wife, which I already he was married but seperated. She proceeds to tell me that he had never really moved out and that they were not really seperated. I was floored.. When I got home that morning, he begged me not to leave him and he kept telling me how much he loved me, yadda yadda yadda. Now here it is 2 years later, we are still living together and he still isnt divorced. I am ready to move on with my life without him I think…. It will be hard because my children have grown attached to him and I think that it is one of the reasons why I havent kicked him out sooner, but I cannot live my life like this anymore. I want to get married and grow old with someone, not be someone’s mistress…
you need to do this for you. He is having cake and eating it too, you are clearly getting short shafted.
If he were to die, you’d be the dirty secret while the wife got all the grief since she’s the legal one. Its a sad reality and while I wish it hadn’t gone on as long as it has already for you, I wish you strength to sever the tie and not waste more of your precious life on someone that isn’t willing to give you 100% of him.
you DESERVE better.
t